Good point about silliness, though I think what you said covers superficiality in general. It allows one to avoid risks.
Well, I did have a qualification on that point about humanity. :) But it's meant to explain something very specific... namely, that the ways and reasons you might cause your friends pain (misunderstanding, diffidence, demands, thoughtlessness...) differ in magnitude but not in kind from the ways that humanity, overall, can cause you suffering. (The same comparison isn't true for the way friends bring you joy, by the way.) There is a human tendency to perpetuate suffering, perhaps as a way of ridding oneself (temporarily) of it, that is very widely sublimated in people's interactions.
"The notion that two people should form an isolated, complete world for each other, which I hear from different directions now and then (and I think I've been there myself) I do not see as desirable or good."
Likewise... but when I am facing the world, giving it my full regard, I am alone. This is a fact about me, not about friendship itself.
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Well, I did have a qualification on that point about humanity. :) But it's meant to explain something very specific... namely, that the ways and reasons you might cause your friends pain (misunderstanding, diffidence, demands, thoughtlessness...) differ in magnitude but not in kind from the ways that humanity, overall, can cause you suffering. (The same comparison isn't true for the way friends bring you joy, by the way.) There is a human tendency to perpetuate suffering, perhaps as a way of ridding oneself (temporarily) of it, that is very widely sublimated in people's interactions.
"The notion that two people should form an isolated, complete world for each other, which I hear from different directions now and then (and I think I've been there myself) I do not see as desirable or good."
Likewise... but when I am facing the world, giving it my full regard, I am alone. This is a fact about me, not about friendship itself.
*hugs* Thanks for the comment.